Hiding Behind The Ancestors

By Candice Smith Adewole


A few days ago I had a conversation with a woman on Facebook in regards a post that depicted George Floyd standing between Malcolm X and Martin Luther King. I found the post and picture to be absolutely absurd, because in no way was George Floyd a martyr. He did not deserve to die at the hands of police officers, who are sworn to serve and protect, but he is no American hero in my eyes and there are many others who feel the same way.

What started off as a sarcastic, yet humorous comment about what happens when you give crayons to the wrong people led to a conversation that further opened my mind to just how deep the victimhood mentality runs, and just how much Black Americans hide behind the skirts of their ancestors pain, instead of walking in the spirit of excellence and alchemizing that pain into power. The comment that was so revealing was the following:

“Candice, you make a very educated and knowledgeable point. All of which is true. You also continuously say “them” as if you are not a product of the problem. But the BLM movement is bigger that just police brutality. This stems way back to the beginning. The systems and failures that were set in place for the African American community. What you see in Black people is not because it’s naturally who we are, this is the result of impeccable planning and systems that have been in place for years. Our parents, grand parents, and great grandparents were never given a fair chance at life , this is the result , and it’s a hopeless situation, unity is dead, we are distracted by all the wrong things, and we don’t care enough to try, but please be advised that it was planned years ago.”

I really couldn’t believe it. Yet another Black person with a defeatist attitude. Never-mind that it’s 2020, and Black Americans are among the most privileged people of color on the planet. Never-mind other people of color, including Black people from other countries come to the United States and are able to do better. I just couldn’t deal with her response, and so this was my reply:

“I can understand where you are coming from, but in the end all of those things become excuses, because at the end of the day if you recognize these things, then it is your responsibility to do better, and to be better. I’m tired of Black men and women who claim to be descendants of people who built the pyramids cling to the idea that in 2020 they somehow can’t step into their greatness because of systems that are in place. I have read a great deal about Black people of excellence, and at every point and time in history, it was the Black people who were intelligent enough to understand  how to manipulate the system to benefit them and alchemize their pain into power that were able to achieve greatness. The rest of Black folks succumbed to the system, because they were weak in mind and spirit.”

Modern Black Americans have become overly reliant on using the pain of past ancestors as a reason for why they cannot organize, mobilize, and achieve the heights of excellence that lie dormant inside of them. They carry the spirit of the Jim Crow south , even though the younger generations have never even experienced that level of racial discrimination, and in fact the remaining generation that actually lived through Jim Crow segregation will have all passed away within the next 35-40 years.

I often refer to Madam CJ Walker a lot, but I do so, because her story is extraordinary. I studied her life for an entire 12 months because I wanted to understand her mindset.

Here you have a woman born on the very same plantation her parents worked on as slaves, she made MILLIONS, all while marketing and selling her products to Black women across the United States and navigating the Jim Crow south. She polished herself to get into social circles to which  her born station  would have never allowed her to(because even then there were class levels among Black people). Imagine if Madam CJ Walker, the first self-made female millionaire, would have wasted her time talking about  the system and how her parents lives weren’t fair because they were born into slavery, she would have never made history.

The Black collective talks about Black Wall Street like that was the norm for Black people. I can assure  you it was not the norm. The people who created Black Wall Street in Tulsa, Oklahoma were special, because their mindset was different from the  99% of Black folks who stayed complaining about the system. Black Wall Street existed only because that small population of people understood how to alchemize things. Lots of lessons can be learned from their story (including their failure to protect themselves from outsiders) and others like it.

I have reached the point where I have grown weary of hearing how our ancestors weren’t given a fair chance at life. It’s one hundred percent true they weren’t, but life isn’t fair, and we don’t live in utopia. There are many groups of people all over the world who have suffered horrendous, and inhumane injustices at the hands of others, and even today you can buy an African slave fresh off the continent of Africa, and why is that? It’s because Black lives really don’t matter to most Black people (unless White hands take those lives), and the joke is on the Black collective, because while everyone is temporarily in their emotions, and glad they’ve won the pity and sympathy of the world over the George Floyd tragedy, 85 Black people were shot (30 fatally) in Chicago alone this past weekend at the hands of other Black people, and what are most Black folks emotionally stuck on? Their irrational fear of the police and how their ancestors didn’t have a fair chance.

How is any of this thinking honoring all those who came before them and struggled so that future generations could walk in power and excellence? Black people and especially Black women (because of sacred womb space energy) need to do the ancestral healing work to break the chains, and keep the “White Man” out of their mouths, because the more you talk about something that thing becomes your manifested reality (oh you thought the law of attraction didn’t apply to this situation), including manifested collective reality.

The majority of the Black collective will stay loosing, because most are on the bottom level vibration of powerlessness, but rest assured, not all of us live in that energy. It’s 2020, it’s time to break free and be great. Alchemize your pain into something powerful. Now wouldn’t the ancestors be proud of that.

Candice Smith Adewole is a mother, author, teach, speaker, and founder of Fearless Freedom. Fearless Freedom is program to help women in the levelup community travel for access to quality healthcare options and relocate abroad.



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  • Stephania

    Absolutely wonderful article. I am black from the Caribbean and it’s puzzling to me to see the defeatist mindset of blacks here. Plus, the democratic party encourages it.

    • leahlove

      Thanks so much for reading! It is true that the defeatist mindset is frustrating and it actually takes quite a bit of undoing to loosen it from the mind. I always appreciate being able to look at Black people form the Caribbean and other nations, as examples. There is far too much to gain by being here in the US, if only we take advantage of it.

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