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The Importance of Understanding Masculinity
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The Importance of Understanding Masculinity

By Candice Smith Adelewole When I got married it was the first time in my life that I had ever lived with a man from the time my parents had gotten divorced at the age of 7. Yikes! It was the first time in all those years hearing a male voice every single day, or observing male behavior first hand on a regular basis.Being raised in a female dominated family environment didn’t prepare me for married life. I had to learn many things the hard way.I had to learn that men have feelings too, and need quiet space to think their problems out. That them saying no, isn’t necessarily out of being mean or controlling, but their hardwired instincts to protect and provide for the people they care about. After deep studying and reflecting on masculinity and men, I learned that men and women have tw...
Personal Positivity Campaign
Feminine Self Care

Personal Positivity Campaign

Often we are surrounded by negativity and have become so accustomed to it that we have normalized it. Negativity adversely affects our emotional wellbeing, even if we have been numb to how it makes us feel. Negativity makes us feel tense, angry, fearful, tired and much more. But, I’m sure you get the point.   Negativity turns our focus on what is perceived as ‘wrong’ and away from what we perceive as ‘right’. It also keeps our focus away from the reality of what is really happening and what really matters in our lives. Here are examples of negativity: GossipHaters: people who drain us rather than inspire usViolent TV showsNational NewsMusic that is depressing and anger-filled or encourages aggressionNegative self talk (constantly saying to self ‘I’m fat”, “I wish I we...
Gaining Weight Isn’t Bad
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Gaining Weight Isn’t Bad

I would like to suggest that black women (and all women for that matter) be aware of latching on to ideologies that do not support your living well and well being; emotionally, physically and mentally. It is NOT healthy to be overweight for whatever your body frame should support. It is not THICK, it is not BIG BONED. It is obesity. Any ideology that leads to a culture that supports and excuses obesity is troublesome and problematic. Also, sexual competition exists and when coupled with coddling and patronizing sympathy, said competition becomes a menacing threat. For many reasons I won't go into, a lot black women seem to be oriented towards victim politics which allows them to be petted by "well meaning" folks who feel more comfortable with extremely overweight (non-threaten...
Beauty Secrets for Women Over 40
Beauty, Feminine Self Care

Beauty Secrets for Women Over 40

I believe that she is absolutely right in exclaiming that she has always been high maintenance. A well kept woman reaps the rewards later in life. I believe that a woman with foresight will understand that as a representative of her family name, she is an investment for her husband and family and therefore must invest in herself to ensure her health, inner and outer beauty are preserved. Mrs. Sabrina Samuels is a wonderful example of investment in Self. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F5mnRgSi5kM