Dating & Courtship

Letter to My Daughter, From Dad with Love, Part 1
Pre-Marital Couseling

Letter to My Daughter, From Dad with Love, Part 1

Who is going to be first in your life? This is a very important question.  But in modern times, it has become blurred.  In the past, our spiritual and religious belief was foundational and the key driver in life.  Now, for many, this is no longer a guiding principal.  Rather, there is a make-it-up as you go mentality.  As a result, many are fumbling and wandering in the wilderness.  So, what is your guiding foundational spiritual principal in life? In my life, it is the Bible and a belief in God and to rely on Him for grace, mercy, strength, and wisdom. Who is going to be second in your life? No, it is not your mother, myself, or even yourself.  When we think of marriage, it is your husband.  Your sole purpose is to attend to and selflessly meet his ...
Courtship: Why and Examples of What It Looks Like
Courtship

Courtship: Why and Examples of What It Looks Like

The Reality Courtship is very empowering for a woman because if she has the intention of marrying, she is positioned to be pursued and treated like a queen; both of which are very important to a woman’s self esteem. And, quite frankly, when a woman feels good about herself and honors her innate inner beauty, she makes better choices.  The Pursuit The essence of courtship is pursuit for marriage and in most cases, healthy masculinity loves a good chase.  The chase occurs during the process of vetting (a topic we will explore in depth later) and should literally continue down the wedding aisle and well into marriage. It might be a strange idea, I know, but we will also discuss this in the marriage chapters of this book.   Although both the man and the w...
He Will Pursue You
Courtship, Dating, Dating & Courtship

He Will Pursue You

Article by Mitzi J Hernandez Despite what a woman might think are the reasons why a man doesn’t pursue her strong enough, the ultimate and genuine reason is the fact that he’s simply not into her enough. Let’s settle this once and for all. He is not shy. You do not intimidate him. “If a man is interested, no distance will stand in the way. But if he is not interested, you can live next door, and that’s too far for him to go.” A man has a strong desire to be the initiator in relationships. That’s part of his manhood. He wants to seize the challenge. A man loves the pursuit. Trust me. When he sees what he wants, he goes after it. If a man you adore is not pursuing you, he is not interested in you. Men can make endless excuses as to why they don’t go after a woman....
The Benefits of Marriage for Men
Pre-Marital Couseling

The Benefits of Marriage for Men

Article by Art of Manliness Lately, marriage has gotten a bad rap. It seems like many people these days feel marriage is some archaic arrangement that holds people back from realizing their full potential. Even if people aren’t particularly anti-marriage, they will avoid getting hitched for as long as they can. Many men delay marriage because they believe that dating and co-habitating offer all of the benefits (particularly sex) of marriage without the commitment and responsibility. They are fooling themselves. Nearly all of the true advantages of marriage (yes, even sex) apply only to actual married couples, not those couples living together, and certainly not to those simply dating. More and better sex. The popular belief is that marriage stifles sexual fulfillment. The ...
Planning a wedding, a marriage and a life is not the Woman’s role or duty
Engagement, Husband Life Marriage Advice, Masculine Sphere, Masculinity, Men & Marriage, Pre-Marital Couseling

Planning a wedding, a marriage and a life is not the Woman’s role or duty

In 75 days I am planning to see the most outstanding, most awesome, most wonderful, most amazing woman, my bride, my love, my sweetheart – Leah.  With a soft warm morning breeze, the sun rays glistening between the branches, the strings singing a melody of love, my bride will seem as if she is just gracefully floating down the aisle.   To join me at the alter.  For the two strands of life, our souls, to be uniquely joined like a rope.  Strong, unwavering, determined, bond of life.  April 14th, 2019, seems so far away …  but in the blink of an eye the day will be here.  I am so looking forward to exiting the vehicle of bachelorhood and enter into the ranks of the married.  In my profession I have had the distinct fortune to meet thousand...
Femininity, Authenticity and Compatibility
Dating, Femininity

Femininity, Authenticity and Compatibility

By Andrew Aitken I was on a second date last week, and towards the end of the evening the girl told me "You know what I like about you? You don't ask me what I want." I laughed because although I knew what she was trying to say, it sounded like "I like you because you ignore me." So she clarified: "No, I mean, like when it comes to where we are going or how we are getting there, you are decisive and know what you want. You always check to make sure your decision is OK with me, but you don't need my opinion to have your own. Other guys will constantly ask me what I want to do, even though I really don't care; and then it is just awkward because we go back and forth trying to 'let' each other decide - but I don't want to have to make the decisions." This girl and I are compatible (i...
If He Truly Wants You, He Will Pursue You
Dating

If He Truly Wants You, He Will Pursue You

By Mitzi J Hernandez Despite what a woman might think are the reasons why a man doesn’t pursue her strong enough, the ultimate and genuine reason is the fact that he’s simply not into her enough. Let’s settle this once and for all. He is not shy. You do not intimidate him. “If a man is interested, no distance will stand in the way. But if he is not interested, you can live next door, and that’s too far for him to go.” A man has a strong desire to be the initiator in relationships. That’s part of his manhood. He wants to seize the challenge. A man loves the pursuit. Trust me. When he sees what he wants, he goes after it. If a man you adore is not pursuing you, he is not interested in you. Men can make endless excuses as to why they don’t go after a woman. They’ll...